Don't be a douche-nugget!

    I have been bullied my entire life. From every angle and aspect. 

 

- Too fat

- Four eyes

- Small boobs

- Huge boobs

- Big feet

- Ugly

- Stupid

- Too smart

- Showoff

- Overachiever

- Underachiever

- Weird

- Weak

- Untalented

 

    You fucking name it! If it exists, I’ve been bullied for it! It tore me apart as a child/young adult. It played over and over in my head, if anyone gave me an actual compliment, I didn’t believe a word they said. From years of being ridiculed for who I was. 

 

    There’s an important lesson in all of this, what you say to people has a lasting and damaging effect on people. Being kind is literally free, it’s one of the only things on this planet that doesn’t cost a dime and makes people feel wealthier than they’ve ever been. 

 

    A lot of what I went through beat me down, stripped my confidence layer by layer and turned me into a person I didn’t like or recognize. 

 

    I learned in therapy that the ideations of others are not a reflection of who I am, what I’m capable of and the person that I want to be. Even though it was a struggle getting to this version of me; it’s been one of the most extraordinary experiences of my life. I learned just how strong I could be, I learned that I am actually very intelligent, while my feet ARE big, they make the cute shoes still so I don’t think that’s a loss, I am talented in many ways, I do have four eyes and guess what? I see everything I need to! I guess I might have been too fat for society’s eyes, but to me I’m a work in progress! 

 

    We’re all SOMETHING. We’re never going to not be judged for who we are, it’s the rule of the universe. But the way that we see ourselves is the most important thing in the world. The people who are meant to love you, will love you because all of those other thing, not despite them. 

 

    What I realized along my path is that people are going to love you no matter what! But the only one you NEED love from is yourself. I finally love myself, the woman I am, the path I am on and who I know I’ll become! There is growth everywhere! There are opportunities all over the place! Take all of your passions and anger, drive and emotions and throw them full force into your dreams. 

 

    Show the bullies of your past that they were wrong about you. I know that I don’t have to prove a goddamn thing to anyone, but I also know that the satisfaction I’ll get from proving people wrong is going to be so freeing! 

     

    Lesson of the day: Be a fucking nice human. It’s purest form of kindness you can show to anyone. 

 

XOXO